I love being a gentleman.  I just do.  I practice displaying good manners, and whichever woman (friends or colleagues) I might be with appreciates it.  Besides just being a good thing to practice, good manners get you noticed.  I’m a tall guy, and it’s amazing to me how many people will stop eating their meals if I’m in a restaurant with my wife, and when she gets up to go to the ladies room or when she comes back to the table, I stand up.  Something that simple has stopped people from eating their meals because it captures their attention.  Even if I was not tall, the fact that I stand up in respect of the woman I’m with is a powerful gesture.  Remember: A man stands out when he stands up.  Likewise, when my wife and I are being shown to our table and I stop to pull out her chair for her, even the hostesses have often stopped in their tracks because they have either not seen a man do that for a woman, or they haven’t seen it happen often.

I’ve been in places where I’ll see a couple either entering or leaving a store or restaurant and the man will walk ahead of the woman he is with and either let the door close in her face, or reach back and hold it open for her.  That’s a punk move.  Show the woman you’re with some courtesy and respect.  Hold the door of the restaurant open for her and let her walk in ahead of you.  Open her car door for her before you get behind the wheel.  If you’re with a woman and you’ve taken two separate cars, walk her to her car before you go to yours.

Let’s say you’re in a restaurant and something is wrong with her order and it has to be sent back, but your order is okay.  Here’s a tip: don’t start eating your meal until she gets her food back.  It shows respect that you’ll wait for her, and it won’t look like you’re being greedy and selfish.  Even if she encourages you to start your meal, politely refuse and wait for her.  That kind of consideration goes a long way, it impresses the person you’re with, and it’s something that’s memorable.

Please understand something: I wasn’t brought up with this level of manners.  Besides saying, “please,” “thank you,” “yes, sir,” and “no, ma’am,” I really didn’t know too much about manners and how to be a gentleman.  So, whatever I know now is because I took it upon myself to learn, to ask questions about acceptable behavior and then I put what I learned into practice.

Remember: Gentlemen aren’t born; they’re made!

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